Supplications for Family and Relationships
👨👩👧👦 Supplications for Family and Relationships
Allah says: ﴿ Our Lord, grant us from among our spouses and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous ﴾ [Al-Furqan: 74]
📖 Supplications in this lesson
🤲 ① Supplication for Marriage
🟢 “O Allah, bless them, and bless upon them, and unite them in goodness.” 🟢
🔢 Number of times: 🟢 At the time of marriage
📚 Source
| Source | Reference | Status |
|---|---|---|
| Sunan Abi Dawud | 2130 | ✅ Authentic |
| Sunan At-Tirmidhi | 1091 | ✅ Authentic |
💎 Hadith and merit
From Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him):
The Prophet ﷺ, when congratulating someone on marriage, would say: “May Allah bless you, and shower His blessings upon you, and unite you both in goodness.”
[Sunan Abi Dawud, authenticated by Al-Albani]
🔍 Explanation and benefits
| Element | Explanation |
|---|---|
| Bless them | Blessing for each spouse individually |
| Bless upon them | Blessing for their shared life |
| Unite them in goodness | Harmony and happiness in marriage |
| Usage | To be said when congratulating a marriage |
🤲 ② Supplication before marital relations
🟢 “In the name of Allah. O Allah, keep the devil away from us and keep the devil away from what You provide for us.” 🟢
🔢 Number of times: 🟢 Once (×1)
📚 Source
| Source | Reference | Status |
|---|---|---|
| Sahih Al-Bukhari | 141 | ✅ Authentic |
| Sahih Muslim | 1434 | ✅ Authentic |
💎 Merit of this supplication
From Ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them), the Prophet ﷺ said:
“If one of you, before having relations, says: ‘In the name of Allah. O Allah, keep the devil away from us and keep the devil away from what You provide for us,’ then if a child is destined for them, the devil will never harm him.”
[Muttafaq ‘alayh]
🔍 Explanation and benefits
| Element | Explanation |
|---|---|
| In the name of Allah | Beginning with Allah’s name |
| Keep the devil away from us | Protection for the couple from the devil’s influence |
| What You provide for us | The child resulting from this union |
| Merit | Protection of the child from the devil’s harm |
🤲 ③ Supplication for righteous offspring
🟠 “My Lord, grant me from Yourself a good offspring. Indeed, You are the Hearer of supplication.” 🟠
📖 Reference: [Al-Imran: 38]
🔢 Number of times: 🟢 As needed
📚 Source
| Source | Reference | Status |
|---|---|---|
| Qur'an | Al-Imran: 38 | ✅ Qur'an |
💎 Context of the verse
This is the supplication of Prophet Zakariya (peace be upon him) when he asked Allah for a child in old age.
Allah says:
﴿ Thereupon Zakariya called upon his Lord, saying: “My Lord, grant me from Yourself a good offspring. Indeed, You are the Hearer of supplication.” ﴾
[Al-Imran: 38]
🔍 Explanation and benefits
| Element | Explanation |
|---|---|
| My Lord | Calling upon Allah’s Lordship |
| Grant me | Requesting a pure, unearned gift |
| From Yourself | Especially from Allah |
| Good offspring | Righteous, blessed children |
| Hearer of supplication | Allah hears and answers prayers |
🤲 ④ Supplication: “Our Lord, grant us from our spouses…”
🟠 “Our Lord, grant us from among our spouses and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous.” 🟠
📖 Reference: [Al-Furqan: 74]
🔢 Number of times: 🟢 As needed
📚 Source
| Source | Reference | Status |
|---|---|---|
| Qur'an | Al-Furqan: 74 | ✅ Qur'an |
💎 Context of the verse
This is one of the qualities of the servants of the Most Merciful: they ask Allah for the righteousness of their spouses and children.
Allah says:
﴿ And those who say: “Our Lord, grant us from among our spouses and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us an example for the righteous.” ﴾
[Al-Furqan: 74]
🔍 Explanation and benefits
| Element | Explanation |
|---|---|
| From our spouses | Includes husbands and wives |
| From our offspring | Children and grandchildren |
| Comfort to our eyes | What brings joy to the heart through their piety |
| Example for the righteous | Being a model in piety |
| Comprehensiveness | A supplication encompassing the whole family |
🤲 ⑤ Supplication for parents
🟠 “My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small.” 🟠
📖 Reference: [Al-Isra: 24]
🔢 Number of times: 🟢 As needed
📚 Source
| Source | Reference | Status |
|---|---|---|
| Qur'an | Al-Isra: 24 | ✅ Qur'an |
💎 Context of the verse
Allah commands kindness to parents and supplicating for them.
Allah says:
﴿ And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say: “My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small.” ﴾
[Al-Isra: 24]
🔍 Explanation and benefits
| Element | Explanation |
|---|---|
| My Lord | Calling upon Allah’s Lordship |
| Have mercy upon them | Requesting mercy for the parents |
| As they brought me up | In recognition of their upbringing |
| [When I was] small | During childhood and weakness |
| Filial piety | Supplication is the best form of piety after their death |
🤲 ⑥ Supplication: “My Lord, forgive me and my parents…”
🟢 “My Lord, forgive me and my parents and the believers the Day the account is established.” 🟢
📖 Reference: [Ibrahim: 41]
🔢 Number of times: 🟢 As needed
📚 Source
| Source | Reference | Status |
|---|---|---|
| Qur'an | Ibrahim: 41 | ✅ Qur'an |
💎 Context of the verse
This is the supplication of Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him).
Allah says:
﴿ My Lord, forgive me and my parents and the believers the Day the account is established. ﴾
[Ibrahim: 41]
🔍 Explanation and benefits
| Element | Explanation |
|---|---|
| Forgive me | Asking forgiveness for oneself first |
| And my parents | Then for the parents |
| And the believers | Then for all believers |
| Day the account is established | Day of Judgment |
| Order | Starting with oneself, then parents, then believers |
⚠️ Important note
It is not permitted to supplicate for those who died in disbelief, even if they are parents.
Allah says:
﴿ It is not for the Prophet and those who have believed to ask forgiveness for the polytheists, even if they were relatives, after it has become clear to them that they are companions of Hellfire. ﴾
[At-Tawba: 113]
🤲 ⑦ Supplication at the birth of a child
🟢 “I seek refuge for you in the perfect words of Allah from every devil and every poisonous creature and from every evil eye.” 🟢
🔢 Number of times: 🟢 At the birth of a child
📚 Source
| Source | Reference | Status |
|---|---|---|
| Sahih Al-Bukhari | 3371 | ✅ Authentic |
💎 Hadith and merit
From Ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them):
The Prophet ﷺ used to seek protection for Al-Hasan and Al-Husayn, saying: “Your father (Ibrahim) used to seek protection for Isma’il and Ishaq with these words: ‘I seek refuge for you in the perfect words of Allah from every devil and every poisonous creature and from every evil eye.’”
[Sahih Al-Bukhari]
🔍 Explanation and benefits
| Element | Explanation |
|---|---|
| I seek refuge for you | Seeking Allah’s protection |
| Perfect words of Allah | His complete and infallible words |
| Every devil | Human and jinn devils |
| Poisonous creature | Venomous animals (snakes, scorpions, etc.) |
| Evil eye | The eye that causes harm |
🤲 ⑧ Supplication: “My Lord, make me an establisher of prayer…”
🟢 “My Lord, make me an establisher of prayer, and [many] from my descendants. Our Lord, accept my supplication.” 🟢
📖 Reference: [Ibrahim: 40]
🔢 Number of times: 🟢 As needed
📚 Source
| Source | Reference | Status |
|---|---|---|
| Qur'an | Ibrahim: 40 | ✅ Qur'an |
💎 Context of the verse
This is a supplication of Ibrahim (peace be upon him) for himself and his descendants.
🔍 Explanation and benefits
| Element | Explanation |
|---|---|
| Make me an establisher of prayer | Asking for success in establishing prayer |
| From my descendants | Some of the descendants (not all will be righteous) |
| Accept my supplication | Request for acceptance of the prayer |
| Importance of prayer | The greatest supplication for one’s descendants |
📚 Quick summary of the supplications
| No. | Supplication | Usage | Color |
|---|---|---|---|
| ① | Bless them and unite them in goodness | Marriage congratulations | 🟢 |
| ② | Keep the devil away | Before marital relations | 🟢 |
| ③ | Righteous offspring | Asking for children | 🟠 |
| ④ | Comfort to our eyes | For the family | 🟠 |
| ⑤ | Have mercy upon them | For parents | 🟠 |
| ⑥ | Forgive me and my parents | For parents/believers | 🟢 |
| ⑦ | Protection for the newborn | At birth | 🟢 |
| ⑧ | Establishment of prayer | For piety | 🟢 |
💡 Practical tips
🎯 Supplications at different stages of family life
At marriage:
- Supplication of congratulations (No. ①)
- Supplication before marital relations (No. ②)
When asking for offspring:
- My Lord, grant me righteous offspring (No. ③)
- Supplication for the family (No. ④)
At the birth of a child:
- Protection with Allah’s words (No. ⑦)
- Supplication for establishment of prayer (No. ⑧)
Filial piety:
- Supplication for mercy (No. ⑤)
- Supplication for forgiveness (No. ⑥)
🌟 Best practices for supplicating for one’s family
- Sincerity: Supplicate with a sincere heart
- Consistency: Make supplication a daily habit
- Comprehensiveness: Ask for good in this world and the next
- Being a role model: Be an example for your family
- Patience: Do not rush to see results
🔗 Additional references
- Tafsir Ibn Kathir (supplications of the prophets)
- Al-Kalim At-Tayyib – Ibn Taymiyyah
- Zad Al-Ma’ad – Ibn Al-Qayyim (family chapter)
- Fortress of the Muslim – Sa’id Al-Qahtani
✨ In conclusion: The family is a precious trust. Never forget to supplicate for them at all times. And remember that the piety of the parents is a cause for the piety of the children, as Allah says: ﴿ Their father was a righteous man ﴾.